Our ADOPTION Story

 

When I was praying about how to announce our adoption news, I felt like it was time for me to be open in a way I never have been. I felt like it was finally time for me to open my heart and be vulnerable on a level that, honestly, makes me incredibly nervous. So here I go. I’m going to share a bit of our story. I pray that it encourages you, wherever you are on this journey called life.

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Our story begins with a dream–a dream that I’ve carried since I was a little girl. I’ve always wanted to be a mom. As a child, I’d spend hours playing with dolls, dreaming about the day when I’d have my own baby. I couldn’t wait to be a mother! Even as I grew into an adult and studied music in college, my career goal was always to be a mom. When Rich and I got married in May 2001, we were so excited about one day starting our family. We both talked about how we’d love to adopt a child someday.

After being married a few years, Rich and I moved to Jacksonville, FL and began trying to start our family in 2005.

In 2008, we tried to foster-adopt a beautiful 3 year-old girl, named Lily. She was in the foster-care system, so we got our foster parenting certification. Just as our home was approved for her to come live with us, she was reunited with her biological mother. We were heartbroken, but trusted that God had a different plan.

Shortly thereafter, we went to a fertility specialist to investigate why I wasn’t getting pregnant. I’ll spare you of all the details of our experience, but it was a very long and arduous series of tests and experiments. It was such a rollercoaster ride of hoping something would work. Finally, we learned that I had endometriosis that damaged my fallopian tubes. The doctor said I most likely wouldn’t be able to conceive naturally. He said that IVF (in vitro fertilization) would be our only option. Initially, I was so overwhelmed with the news that I was ‘damaged’, that I couldn’t even think about trying IVF. About a year later, in February 2011, we decided to give IVF a try. It was one of the most difficult things I’ve ever done. Aside from all the shots, hormones, and appointments, the hardest part was being vulnerable enough to hope more than we’d ever hoped. You can imagine our devastation when we learned that it was unsuccessful. My heart was smashed into a THOUSAND pieces.

A few months later, we moved across the country to Los Angeles. It was such a busy season that I never allowed myself time to fully process my emotions post-IVF. In January 2013, I began a long grieving process. At first, I didn’t know I was grieving. I felt depressed. I would have days that I couldn’t stop crying, sometimes weeping. I couldn’t do things I loved. I felt emotionally handicapped. But I soon learned that I was grieving the loss of a dream—my childhood dream of carrying a baby. During that time, I had many angry conversations with God. I had a lot of questions. I experienced anger, pain, confusion, and sadness. I was a total wreck, but God was right by my side through it all. This type of grieving is unique and can be isolating because it is so personal –many people didn’t know about my story. It was a difficult, messy process but completely necessary. With it, came a tremendous amount of healing that my heart deeply needed.

As my heart was healing, Rich and I began praying about our family and what God had in store for us.

Back when we lived in Jacksonville, FL, I worked as a nanny with a family for several years. In August 2010, one of the kids I cared for became sick with a rare illness and suddenly passed away. It was a shock and such a tragedy. McKenzie was this beautiful, vivacious 15 year-old girl who had her whole life ahead of her. One of the amazing things that came out of this tragedy is that McKenzie’s family started a foundation in her honor called The McKenzie Noelle Wilson Foundation. The foundation’s mission is to see young people reach their full potential.They do things locally in Jacksonville and globally with an orphanage in Uganda.

For some time, we have felt a strong calling to adopt a child from the orphanage in Uganda. Our adoption process is now underway and we are hoping to travel to Africa to pick-up our child later this year. We CANNOT wait!!

If you’d like to participate in our adoption process, please visit this page.

Thanks for your love and support.

xo

Mindy & Rich

19 thoughts on “Our ADOPTION Story

  1. I feel for all you and Rich have gone through. You’ve always let God lead the way and trusted in him, now you’ll
    feel the love a child who will be yours. I know you and Rich will be amazing parents and God willl be with you every step of the way. Congratulations on adopting and moving back to JAX. Love Amie and Fred

  2. God’s plan is amazing! Just wait until you have your baby in your arms and you will know what that truly means.

    Your story is so similar to our’s but I have never been able to deliver the words like you just did!! Thank you for sharing this with the world.

    Adoption is one of the most beautiful ways to love. Blessings to you both.

  3. I am so excited for you. My husband and I were approved to adopt a child and had the chance to bring him home, 4 days later the birth mother changed her mind. We are again beginning the process. I hope that all goes well for you.

    • Wow. Thanks for sharing. I cannot imagine how difficult that must’ve been for you and your husband. Praying that you have hope as you enter into this process, once again.

  4. This is the best description I have read that explains how infertility feels. I’ve walked this road and I am still wandering lost. Prayers for you!

    • My heart goes out to you… I am sorry for the pain you’ve experienced. I pray you feel some comfort, knowing that I and many others have walked the same road. We are walking alongside you, and hoping for the very best. You are not alone. Praying for your heart. Thanks for your comment/prayers!

  5. Mindy, reading your story was like reading my own. There are little differences here & there, like you’ll find in every story once you start talking with other adoptive moms, but much of this could have been pulled from my diary. I remember how difficult the grieving process was when I had to leave behind my dream of being pregnant; even now there are still some moments with pregnant friends that hurt. But…let me talk to you from the other side of your journey. We’ve adopted two children domestically, and I cannot imagine our family any other way. They are so precious in our eyes, as your children will be in yours. God builds beautiful families in so many ways, and I’m sure He has a special plan for you & Rich. Afterward, when you share your story, people will tend to tell you what amazing people you are to have done this great thing. But you’ll know what all adoptive parents know: that our children are the greatest blessing ever bestowed upon us & we are the lucky ones. May God bless you as you travel your path!

  6. Just as Laura said, we know your path and the pains involved. We are glad you are near your goal. We have a beautiful little girl whom God blesses us with each day. Congratulations and may God bless your family.

  7. Alot of times our plans do not pan out.. but we know God is always right on time.. as the song says.. he may not come when we want him, but he’ll be there right on time. ….maybe it just wasn’t the right time for you…. My prayers go out to you… I know any child you are blessed with, will receive all the love it can stand and more… Good luck on your new arrival… God bless you….

  8. We just heard this wonderful news yesterday and are so very excited for you both!! Our adoption story is still a little way off, but the spark has been lit! Looking forward to having you back and watching your sweet family grow!

  9. Mindy,
    Thank you for sharing your story with all of us! You are so brave! You and Rich will be such great parents and everything you have been through together will just strengthen your family. We love you and will continue to lift you up in prayer!

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